When couples handle their differences badly, they typically end up throwing ‘hand grenades’ at each other. In other words, they do everything that is unhelpful in terms of resolving their differences, and inevitably end up fighting, or worse. The result is, their issues go underground even though outwardly each person seems to have moved on
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How do two people who once loved each other, and shared so much in life together such as buying a house, having children, holidays, illness, caring for each other, being involved with each others extended family, etc, end up being unhappy in their relationship to the extent where they do or are prepared to divorce?
Good communication in a marriage is not something that just happens simply because two people want it to happen. Good communication is a skill and like any other, it only improves with commitment, a good mindset and constant practice, preferably with the co-operation of your partner. Like learning any new skill, when you practice these
When couples fight they unintentionally cause long-term harm to their relationship. Instead of resolving the conflict and improving the positive thoughts and feelings for each other they end up with unresolved negative outcomes. This can lead to feelings of disconnection and eventually marriage breakdown. These are the four biggest mistakes couples make when trying to
While there are many reasons why couples struggle in their marriage, there is one particular problem that sneaks its way into a relationship. It’s a sneaky issue that slowly sets about eroding the quality of the marriage over time, eventually leading to marriage and family fragmentation. I speak here of ‘resentment’. Resentment can masquerade in
The Internet didn’t invent having an affair, but it has supercharged it. Today’s technologies have made it easier than any other time in history for a married person to have an affair, yet the irony is that it also has never been easier to discover or expose a person who is cheating. The recent Ashley
Having been a marriage counsellor for many years, it would seem that most couples are indeed opposite to each other on many things and surprisingly many couples are okay. In fact most marriage counsellors would say that it is not the differences between couples that cause the problems. It is not simply a matter being