When couples handle their differences badly, they typically end up throwing ‘hand grenades’ at each other. In other words, they do everything that is unhelpful in terms of resolving their differences, and inevitably end up fighting, or worse. The result is, their issues go underground even though outwardly each person seems to have moved on
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Promises, promises, promises… From early in life, our parents make promises that we all hold them to. As children we make pinky promises. As adults in our own relationships we are held to account for promises we make to our partners. Like it or not, each promise is a ‘social contract’ and we need to
When couples fight they unintentionally cause long-term harm to their relationship. Instead of resolving the conflict and improving the positive thoughts and feelings for each other they end up with unresolved negative outcomes. This can lead to feelings of disconnection and eventually marriage breakdown. These are the four biggest mistakes couples make when trying to
Tips on How to Get to Counselling Bringing up the subject of counselling can be challenging, and how to do this is a common question that we are asked by people. Both men and women equally experience this challenge of how to encourage a reluctant partner to marriage counselling. Often couples find themselves at a
While there are many reasons why couples struggle in their marriage, there is one particular problem that sneaks its way into a relationship. It’s a sneaky issue that slowly sets about eroding the quality of the marriage over time, eventually leading to marriage and family fragmentation. I speak here of ‘resentment’. Resentment can masquerade in
All couples agree that marriage is an investment. Like all investments it will continue to grow and develop if you both put time and the right type of effort into it. The old adage applies here, ‘the more you put in, the more return you will get’. We have been counselling families and couples for
No matter how far apart we are from each other geographically in the physical world, the increasing capabilities of the Internet are progressively simplifying how we connect with others. Texting is now part of everyday life, but it also creates opportunities for misinterpretation 1. Keep it as simple as possible When texting a difficult matter,
Tips on how to get to counselling Bringing up the subject of counselling can be hard and how to do it is a common question. It is the same for men and women alike. You and your partner have arrived at a place where you may not be communicating well. Being able agree on the